Hello Friend,
Tell me if this sounds familiar to you: A husband spends money on new electronic gadgets and entertainment while the wife spends money on new clothes and home décor. Both of them feel that the other is wasting money on unnecessary things, and when money tensions come along, both are secretly (or perhaps openly) blaming the other one for causing the problem. Maybe an argument happens, or maybe resentment builds up and there is cold tension. Either way, things are unhealthy.
I recently heard a wise couple say something interesting: “When we have conflict around money, it’s not about the money.”
So what’s it about? It’s about expectations, assumptions, and lack of communication.
That wise couple is Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn, and they’ve written a book about how to improve in communication about finances. It’s a great book for married or dating couples. It’s called Thriving in Love and Money: 5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself.
This isn’t a book about budgeting or saving or debt-management, though it talks about those things. It’s really about addressing the deeper issues of finding out how your mate perceives things and what they value. It’s about learning to talk about money without arguing and adjusting your expectations and communication techniques.
It’s a really great book, and we’re giving it to those who donate to Harvest Ministries this month. If you think you could benefit from such a book, or you know a couple who is struggling in the areas of love and money, I recommend you get a copy. We will mail one to you for a gift of any amount to the ministry work we are doing at Harvest. | 
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